Friends Will Only Slow You Down Right Now

“I’m 20-something with no friends.” “I left college with 0 friends.” “I have no support in this new stage in my life.” I’m being very much HONEST with you right now, friends you will only slow you down right now.

Firstly, if any of the blog post from this month resonated with you, and you have no friends or people who support or relate to you right now, you are likely in the exact place or space you should be right now. Friends will only slow you down right now.

This month’s theme is independence- not because you can do everything alone, or because loneliness equals strength, but because independence of thought and spirit is a test of your will.

We aren’t talking about getting your own place, or car, or paying your own bills. These things can be achieved much more easily than we know- for God knows everything we need: shelter, food, clothes, transportation.

“Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father. knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.” Matthew 6:8

Gaining material things is mathematical and visible to the eye. But our will remains invisible long before it is actualized on the earth.

There are times when not having that cushiony, cozy, familiar, padding to fall back on is a good thing. That padding in this case, is friendship.

• Friendship can be a crutch. Our friends take it too easy on us, and sometimes celebrate us before the reward is due. We should recognize every accomplishment, yes. But only you know, deep deep down, when you could have worked harder, done more, given more! And it’s up to you to admit that and respond to it with tremendous work and production.
• Our friends cannot fathom our burden. Only God knows the toll He has put on your shoulders. Only you know the call, the pressure, the high stakes. Your relief can only come from succeeding in your mission. The anguish, grief, and desire do not fade with a few friendly quotes from your pals.
• Not all things should be shared. You don’t TRULY need a confidant right now. You want someone to share your load. But the load is for you to carry. Your thoughts, ideas, and LEADS won’t be ably comprehendible to minds outside of your own. It isn’t merely an idea to be praised, it’s the relief that comes from successfully receiving and discerning leads and hints from God. These knots are for you to untie.
• Friendships can be distracting. Interacting with people, and forming and grooming relationships can get considerably difficult and political. Not only this, but they are tremendously distracting, time-consuming and taxing to the spirit.

There is great comfort in friendships. There is great comfort in many different things! Not everything is for every season.

Do not seek comfort right now. It is the very thing that would have you remain stagnant, stuck. The fruit you wish to bear is on the other side of a field ripe and ready to be picked.

 “A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.” Proverbs 13:4